3-Minute Theory: Confidence Isn’t Optional

Confidence isn’t a nice-to-have.

It’s a must-have.

This episode explored how confidence is built - through experience, repetition, reflection, rejection, and sometimes, just showing up scared and doing it anyway.

Here’s what we pulled from it - in 3 minutes, 3 angles, 1 insight.

MIND – Think

"Confidence isn’t arrogance. It’s quiet self-trust."

Arrogance says, “I’m the best.”
Confidence says, “I’ve done the work. I’m ready.”

And that distinction matters.
Real confidence is built on:

• Evidence (not ego)

• Repetition (not perfection)

• Ownership (not external validation)

You don’t need to feel ready.
You need to start building the proof that you can handle it — one small win at a time.

BODY – Do

Confidence Builder: The “Evidence Stack” Journal

Tonight, write down:

1. Three times you did something hard, and got through it

2. One fear you’ve overcome

3. A moment when someone gave you positive feedback

Example:

“I moved to a new country. I built a business. I returned someone’s lost belongings with integrity.”
→ That’s who I am. That’s my evidence

Confidence is remembering who you’ve already been.
Then acting like you still are.

HEART – Feel

Ask yourself:

"Am I proud of how I showed up, even when no one saw it?"

Because confidence isn’t always loud.
Sometimes it’s quiet.

It’s choosing to do the right thing when no one’s watching.
It’s giving back what isn’t yours.

It’s showing up for yourself in the gym, the job, the podcast - when doubt tells you not to.

The more aligned you are with your values, the more natural confidence becomes.

A Piece of Us

Rupert: “This summer, looking back, has been one I’ll never forget—and I wouldn’t change a thing. Through my work, I’ve come to a realisation: I want to change direction. But with that comes self-doubt. Sometimes I feel like I’m doing nothing, like I’m wasting time.

For years I worked seven days a week, and now I’ve had more social time in the last year than in the past fifteen. And yet, I struggle to let go of that constant drive. Why can’t I just enjoy life sometimes without feeling like I always need to be working?

Ever since I was a boy, work has been everything. Now that I actually have weekends off and time with family and friends, there’s still that voice in my head—telling me to get back to work, telling me I don’t deserve the rest.”

Konrad: “This past week was a learning curve for me, a reminder to slow down and take one day at a time. Since my ultramarathon in May, I’ve felt incredibly confused and lost… I feel as though I have no direction in life, and every little thing irritates me. I focus too much on the future and the anxiety it brings, and I forget to live day to day.

I get frustrated with other people, but lately I’ve slowly realised that it’s a me thing - it’s my expectations of myself, and other people have nothing to do with it. In our podcast, we often talk about how, when you slow down, you notice what needs to be fixed, and that this should be treated as a gift. However, when you’re in the moment, it’s really hard to see it that way.

But I hope this is the beginning of something beautiful and new!”

Also, you might like the full episode. 😊 

Have a lovely week!