3-Minute Theory: Different Theories

This episode wasn’t about advice.

It was about asking the questions we usually avoid.

Rupert came up with this beautiful idea at the very start of our podcast: “Let’s prepare a list of questions that we don’t know of, and ask each other on air”

This became a tradition that we do every 15-20 episodes.

We covered masculinity, fear, spirituality, truth, death, and what we owe to ourselves and each other.

Here’s what we pulled from it – in 3 minutes, 3 angles, 1 insight.

MIND – Think

"Being a man is not about shutting down. It’s about showing up, with honesty, presence, and emotional depth."

We’re flipping the narrative of masculinity.

It’s not about being switched off. It’s about being able to feel, without losing control.

A man who is calm, reliable, emotionally available and grounded in who he is… that’s strength.

That’s the example we want to live and leave behind.

BODY – Do

The Masculinity Mirror (journal prompt):

Write these three sentences down and finish them honestly:

1. The part of me I admire most is...

2. The part of me I avoid facing is...

3. If I were in a relationship with myself, I’d struggle with...

Example:

• I admire my resilience.

• I avoid facing my time management.

• I’d struggle with how often I say yes when I should say no.

These reflections aren’t weaknesses, they’re starting points.

Truth builds better men.

Because real change isn’t about perfection.

It’s about alignment with the person you’re becoming.

HEART – Feel

Ask yourself:

"Am I living in a way I’ll be proud of when it’s over?"

Because of fear of failure, fear of death, fear of regret, they all shrink when you live in alignment.

Be the man who shows up. Feels deeply. Speaks honestly. Loves fully.

A Piece of Us

Rupert: “For the first time in my life, I feel truly aligned with myself. I’ve stopped putting others before me, and I’m finally choosing me. I’m leaning into that truth. No more self-sacrifice just to keep others comfortable.

Life demands that we question who we are. It asks us to move through the darkness to discover the light within. I was fortunate enough to be given that opportunity — to face the pain, to walk through it, and to find a part of myself buried in the depths of it all. I welcomed him. I embraced him. And now, I live free.

I’ve never felt more liberated than I do in this moment.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”

Konrad: "Last weekend, I went to Devon to see my friend and camped on the beach for one night. The view was beautiful, and I had an amazing time disconnecting. Yet still, I felt a ball of anxiety in my chest and stomach, like I was not doing enough.

It really made me reflect, and I think I might need to revisit therapy and do some deeper work on myself. I’ve noticed that feeling anxious and constantly worrying has become my baseline, and I don’t think we’re meant to operate like this as humans.

On the flip side, I try my best to appreciate the smallest things, the insane privilege we have living here in the UK. I have a healthy body, a fridge full of food, an amazing support group, and I’m in the process of achieving my goals.

I have nothing to worry about, yet I still worry constantly. Still battling my demons. I will get better.

P.S. I still wake up on time. Wanting to push this to 6am and start the day right, with peace of mind. With an hour to myself."

Also, you might like the full episode. 😊 

Have a lovely week!