3-Minute Theory: Emotional Intelligence > Intelligence

Emotional intelligence > Intelligence.

We talked about emotional control, vulnerability, fear, reflection, and what it means to be a man who feels, thinks, and grows.

Here’s what we pulled from it – in 3 minutes, 3 angles, 1 insight.

MIND – Think

"Being emotionally available isn’t weakness. It’s security. It’s presence. It’s power."

Real masculinity isn’t about being emotionless to the point of shutdown.

It’s about feeling fully without being ruled by your feelings.

Emotional intelligence means knowing:

• What you're feeling

• Why you’re feeling it

• How to use it (not suppress it) to lead, love, and live better

The strongest men we know? They’re calm. Honest. And deeply aware of what’s going on inside.

BODY – Do

The Daily Emotion Check-In 

(takes 2 minutes)

Before bed or after a tough moment, ask:

1. What emotion did I feel most strongly today?

2. Did I react or respond to it?

3. What would the emotionally intelligent version of me do next time?

Example:

“I felt frustrated when I missed training. I snapped at someone.

Next time: I’ll pause, breathe, and ask if I’m angry at them, or at myself."

The goal isn’t perfection.
It’s pattern awareness.
And awareness builds emotional muscle.

HEART – Feel

Ask yourself:

"Am I emotionally present, or emotionally protective?"

Because too many men grew up thinking silence = strength.

But the man who can feel pain, sit with fear, and still move forward, he’s the one we trust, follow, and remember.

A Piece of Us

Rupert: “I used to think presence was a buzzword, some spiritual word people tossed around without really living it when I was younger, but sitting in therapy for the first time this week, stripped of distractions, I felt something shift. Just being there, fully honest, no mask… it was medicine.

Presence isn’t about being calm or perfect. It’s about being real. Feeling the tightness in my chest and am staying with it. Speaking the truth without needing to wrap it in a bow.

Therapy didn’t fix me. But it reminded me, I don’t need fixing. I just need to show up. Eyes open. Heart open. Breath in. Breath out.

This is the start. I have found my home, I have finally found my heart!”

Konrad: “Before writing this, I read Rupert's part, which is funny because I also signed up for a therapy session after more than a year. There are still some issues I desperately need to work on—my self-worth. Everyone around me tells me how good, kind, and nice I am, but I can't feel it myself. I know these things intellectually, but I simply can't feel them. So it's time to go deep into my subconscious and connect with those parts.

I attach all of my external achievements to my self-worth, and if I don't achieve them or fall short, I feel like a piece of shit—that’s how my mind works. I think it's unhealthy, and I think it needs to change. I've been operating like this for over 28 years.”

Also, you might like the full episode. 😊 

Have a lovely week!